I just finished wrapping the last of the Christmas presents! But now I’m sitting, looking at the presents under the tree from across the room. I am torn – is it too many presents? Is it not enough? Does it really even matter?
I go through this debate every year. I vow to buy less presents for the kids. I try to refrain, but then about a week or two before Christmas I worry that I didn’t get enough and want to buy more. I want to spoil my kids. But, I don’t want to spoil my kids. Wait, I do want to spoil my kids. I feel like I’ve lost my mind trying to figure out what I want to do.
I know logically that it doesn’t matter how many presents my kids receive. It’s the joys of the day, being together, and celebrating as a family that is important. But the mom in me wants to give my kids everything in the world. But then the other part of me doesn’t want to overly spoil my kids or to make them materialistic. This internal battle does me in every year.
We do strive to teach our kids about giving and supporting those less fortunate. I bring them with me to donate items every year, and we have the kids shop for their siblings to learn the joy of giving. The kids love to buy items for others and don’t expect anything in return. So its not all about receiving. They don’t seem to care if they get two or twenty presents, but I care. I just can’t help but wonder the balance of presents ever year.
So here I sit, looking at the pile of presents, trying to decide the right balance. The pile looks huge! But then I have to remind myself I have four kids. There are presents from us and their grandparents under the tree. I think this year I actually have been more conservative than years past. I tried very hard to buy presents because they would love the item, not because I think they need one more present under the tree. I have tried to cut back on the number of toys since they already have more than they play with, and instead give a variety of items.
Each kid this year is getting 13 presents from us – ironic number for sure. One present is a big one. Two are clothes; one is a stuffed animal (angry birds, webkinz, etc). The rest are toys, games, books, etc. On top of that they will be getting presents from three sets of grandparents and a small present from each of their siblings. I think they will be happy.
So now I ask you – how many presents? What is too much, what is too little? Does it even matter? Am I the only parent who ponders this? What is normal in your house? I’m dying to know!